6-12 months

Parenting doesn't stop for a pandemic and neither do we! Tresillian is here for you - 7 days a week. If your baby is having sleep difficulties you can now self-refer to Tresillian services by calling our Parent’s Help Line on 1300 272 736. Call now to talk to one of our experienced nurses about which Tresillian service will best suit you.

Why do babies cry at 6-12 months?

There are many reasons why babies cry.  It could be hunger or having a dirty or wet nappy; they are lying in an uncomfortable position or have a pain in their stomach or simply that they want comfort from the people they love most.  It may also be over-tiredness when baby’s tired ‘signs’ have gone unnoticed and they become upset and distressed.

How do I know it’s time for my baby to sleep?

Babies show ‘tired signs’ when they are getting tired and need sleep such as grimacing, yawning, grizzling, frowning, sucking, staring, snuggling in, jerky movements, becoming over active, clenching fists, rubbing eyes, fussiness or crying. Responding early to these tired signs prevents your baby becoming distressed and makes it easier to get baby to sleep.

Settling a baby aged over 6 months (Steps 1-3)

  1. Talk quietly and cuddle your baby to help baby calm
  2. Put your baby on their back in the cot awake (calm/drowsy). Comfort your baby with gentle ‘ssshhh’ sounds, gentle rhythmic patting, rocking, or stroking
  3. As your baby calms or falls asleep, move away from the cot or leave the room. If your baby starts to become distressed, return and comfort your baby using step 2 before moving away or leaving the room again. Some babies may need you to stay in the room until they are asleep

When baby won't settle to sleep

  • You may have to repeat the steps above several times before your baby is able to settle to sleep
  • If your baby still does not settle pick your baby up and cuddle until calm then either: try steps 1-3 or get baby up and try again later
  • As your baby learns to settle, it will take less time to calm your baby

Parental Presence (for babies over 6 months)

(You may prefer this option if your baby has never been separated from you at sleep time)

  1. Talk quietly and cuddle your baby to help baby calm
  2. Put your baby on their back in the cot awake (calm/drowsy). Comfort your baby with gentle ‘ssshhh’ sounds, gentle rhythmic patting, rocking, or stroking
  3. Once your baby is calm, lie down or sit beside the cot within sight of your baby and pretend to be asleep
  4. If your baby remains awake, give a little cough or quietly say ‘ssshh time to sleep’ so your baby knows you are still in the room
  5. If your child becomes distressed do the least amount to calm your child (start with step 3 but you may need to start with steps 1-3 again) then lie or sit beside the cot
  6. You may have to repeat this several times before your child is able to remain calm and become drowsy or fall asleep
  7. Stay in the room until your child is asleep during the day and sleep in the same room as your child during the night
  8. Continue this for at least 1 week or until your child has 3 nights in a row of relatively uninterrupted sleep
  9. You can now begin to leave the room before your child is asleep

Unfortunately, some days your baby will find it very difficult to settle.  No matter what you try, it does not work.  If you start to feel tired, frustrated, upset or anxious, it’s very likely that your baby will also remain upset and unsettled.  


To soothe your unsettled baby try one or more of the following:

  • a cuddle or holding your baby close (this may include skin to- skin contact)
  • rhythmical movement walking
  • using a pram or sling
  • soft music
  • a “top up” breastfeed within 30 minutes of the last feed (up to 3 months)
  • a dummy
  • a warm bath and/or baby massage 

Baby Safety (SIDS Guidlines)

Baby safe sleeping is very important.

  • Sleep baby on the back from birth, not on the tummy or side
  • Sleep baby with head and face uncovered

Sleeping and Settling FAQ's

  • The only way my baby will sleep is on me, what do I do?

    My baby won’t sleep. I can't put him into the cot/bassinet because he keeps crying. The only way he will go to sleep is on me. At 4-6 weeks of age, this is normal behaviour. Babies need to be physically close to their parents and some need help going to sleep or re-settling. Comforting with cuddles is the best way to settle your baby when he is crying. Wrapping can also help – use a light material such as cotton making sure that the arms are above waist level and there is room to move the legs. Also check how you are feeding your baby and whether or not there is a link between how the baby is feeding (i.e. fast or gulping or snacking) and his unsettled behaviour.

  • How can I help my baby have longer sleeps during the day?

    "My baby will only have 40 minute short day sleeps, but sleeps well overnight. How can I help him have longer day sleeps?" At 4-5 mths, your baby’s sleep-wake cycle is the time spent going through both deep (quiet) and light (active) stages of sleep. A sleep cycle is around 30-50 minutes and then babies can rouse. It’s very common for babies to wake up after 30-40 minutes sleep at this age. There are several ways of re-settling baby. Hands-on settling is one option where you comfort your baby with gentle ‘ssshh’ sounds, gentle rhythmic patting, rocking or stroking until baby is calm or asleep. If your baby becomes or stays distressed pick him up for a cuddle until calm or asleep before putting baby back in the cot. Stay with your baby until he/she is asleep.

  • What can I do to help my baby sleep better at night?

    "6-7mths of age. My baby has started waking more overnight and I can't re-settle him without having to rock him to sleep. What can I do to help him sleep better overnight." A: Its very common for babies to “start" night waking more often at this age, due to them becoming more aware of when they come into their light sleep cycles. When settling your baby ensure they are wrapped or use a sleeping bag with fitted arm holes and no hood. Try lots of reassurance : 1) Talk quietly and cuddle your baby until calm 2) Put your baby on their back in the cot awake (drowsy) 3) Comfort your baby with gentle ‘ssshh’ sounds, gentle rhythmic patting, rocking or stroking until baby is calm or asleep. As your baby calms, move away from the cot or leave the room but if your baby becomes or stays distressed return and comfort your baby using the steps 1-3.

  • My baby has started waking and screaming at night, he used to be a good sleeper. What do I do?

    This is also very common, when babies start to move around more or standing up in their cot, this can disturb their sleep, so they wake up more often. At this age babies understand your tone of voice, and you can guide them by gently saying things like "It’s time to lay down to go to sleep" and then showing or guiding them how to do that.

  • My baby takes hours to settle in the evening, what can I do to make him go to sleep sooner?

    Check if your baby is content and chatting etc. or screaming and restless. If chatting, leave him. If screaming, check how he is used to settling…. is he needing some help with learning new ways to settle? A predictable bedtime routine (sequence of activities) including a wind-down period (for example, meal, bath, cleaning teeth, story time, brief cuddle and kiss, and into bed) is important to help your child recognise and establish good sleep patterns. In preparation for sleep, a bedtime routine (depending on day or night) encourages a wind-down period and ensures that your child’s physical needs are met.

  • My toddler wakes at 5am every morning. Any tips how to get him to sleep a bit longer?

    The early riser is a common concern and it can be challenging to change this. It often improves with age and as the day naps lessen. It helps to consider how your child settles to sleep and support them to learn self settling skills. Also this is a time of the morning when the basal body temperature is at its lowest so ensure they are warm enough. It can take time for children to sleep longer in the morning so set realistic goals and be consistent with self settling methods.

  • My newborn cries on and off all day. Nothing I have tried works. What can I do to make baby sleep?

    This is a common concern for many new parents. Being unsettled and crying are very normal behaviours for newborn babies and part of their development during this time. Things usually improve after baby is around three months. We suggest you offer lots of hands on support like patting, body rocking and a soothing voice. Going out for a walk in the pram or drive in a car can be helpful. This is a time to get support from partner, family and friends as these methods take up a lot of energy and can be very exhausting.

  • I recently had my second baby but now find my 3 year old is having sleep problems and waking up overnight. Any tips?

    A new baby in the family can cause lots of change in the household especially for an older sibling. It can take up to 6 months for older children to adjust to a new baby. Being mindful of the adjustments your older child needs to make to a new baby in the household and demands on your time, is helpful. If possible involve your older child with caring for the new baby and there are lots of ways you can do this (i.e. at nappy change time, bathing time etc.). Set limits and be clear about boundaries with the older child.

  • My baby likes to sleep in my arms. Will I spoil my baby by doing this?

    Newborn babies love being held close against their parents. This position promotes bonding. Developmentally babies are not capable to learn routines at this time. Hands-on support is very appropriate at this age, especially if baby is distressed and you definitely won’t spoil baby. A feed, play and sleep routine can help to support younger babies to develop better sleeping behaviours.

  • My baby is difficult to get to sleep, should I use a bottle to help get her down?

    Firstly, most babies have an unsettled period each day which can vary from one to three hours. Giving your baby a bottle is usually not the answer. In fact, it may even make your baby more unsettled. Firstly, start by visiting your child and family health nurse and asking her to assess one of your feeds. The nurse will observe a breastfeed and possibly also weigh your baby. She may suggest strategies to increase your milk supply if your baby is not gaining adequate weight. These might include increasing the number of times you breastfeed, expressing a small amount of milk before the feed, resting more and drinking more water. However the issue may be the way you are currently settling your baby to sleep. So, it would also be worthwhile explaining to the Nurse how you put baby to sleep (for example do you wrap baby, and are you consistent in the way you put baby to sleep every time. Again, your Child and Family Health Nurse can advise you on some new strategies to try at home. The nurse may ask you to visit your doctor to check there is not a medical reason behind your baby’s crying. However, once any medical cause is ruled out, parents can be reassured that normal crying peaks at this age and will decrease naturally from about 5 months of age.

  • I feel like a failure because my baby does not sleep through the night like other babies in my mother's group

    There are lots of variations in the sleep patterns of infants. No two babies are alike. For many babies waking once or twice during the night is normal. It does not mean you are a failure in anyway. Perhaps you could ask the mothers what they mean by ‘sleeping through the night’. You might find that they feed before midnight and again at around 4.00am to 5.00am.

  • Does Tresillian believe in controlled crying?

    No, Tresillian does not recommend or use controlled crying. Parents are encouraged to learn to identify their baby’s cues and state of wakefulness and recognise the intensity of the baby’s cry; this may include picking the baby up and cuddling and soothing baby, repositioning and patting baby or offering a feed or trying to settle at a later time.

  • Is 'crying it out' a good method to use to help my baby learn to sleep?

    Crying it out seems to be the new name to describe ‘controlled crying’ which was a popular teaching to sleep method used in the 1980's. But since then new research about infant mental health has shown that there are more gentler and effective ways to support good sleep behaviours. Tresillian uses an evidenced based method called responsive settling where we encourage parents to gently practice the skills for independent sleep with their baby by soothing baby if they get distressed. Many parents find this approach much easier to use and less stressful as baby does not have to cry for prolonged periods.

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